1. Introduction

Commitment, commitment, commitment. Hard-work and talent makes people successful, yes, but in my experience, especially in this community, most people are just INTERESTED and therefore NOT COMMITTED in an interaction. Showing full, unmistakable commitment in an interaction is a sign of high self-respect and self-esteem, which is attractive to anyone. When I talk to someone, I value my thoughts and words so much that I EXPECT them to want to listen to whatever I have to say.

2. Commitment is a very powerful thing.

Commitment is a very powerful thing. All my power comes from having people to commit and invest in me. Without any form of commitment made to me, I am POWERLESS. Take for example, if a random person on the street and your mum asks for a favour, who are you more likely to listen to? Definitely the stranger. Okay, was just checking if you were paying attention :P Definitely your mum. This is because you are emotionally invested and committed to her already.

3. Being direct has no challenge

I always hear, “Being direct has no challenge!” “Being direct has no edge!” “New ERP gantry coming up!”. Anyone who has met Val , monster and myself will definitely see that these are poor assumptions, except the ERP gantry part. The power of being direct comes not from humanizing yourself, or rewarding and relating or having good looks, the power of being direct is to gain COMMITMENT from people so that we can legitimately reward and appreciate them. The tools of the direct method are all incredibly effective in gaining commitment. Just think about the X=X rule! People are not going to open up and commit to you unless you commit to them first. A perfect example to look at are insurance agents and hired guns. They want you to patronize them so they are friendlier and more open than strangers, therefore, we feel more inclined to talk to them as compared to a random stranger on the street.

4. Think about all the time and memories you both had!

Nobody wants to just let go of an investment. That is why gambling is an addiction. When gamblers lose, they have just lost their initial investment and if you entice them with the possibility of winning back their initial investment or gaining more, they will definitely want to take that chance! Just like in an interaction, when people commit and you legitimately reward them for their commitment, they will enjoy committing more and if you decide to f**k them over right after, they will find it hard to walk away because they have already committed and invested in you. See why breaking up with someone is so tough?! Think about all the time and memories you both had!

5. PUA world

In the PUA world, the goal of a magic-trick, DHV etc is to gain COMMITMENT in the form of attraction, comfort or interest. When someone is emotionally invested in me, it will be harder for them to walk away. But over-committing before that person commits to me will cause that person to run away, or take out the pepper spray. I am sure you guys have heard of the term “trying-too-hard”. I know I used to be like that. I used to over-reward to the point where it looked like I was giving someone a million dollars for a packet of tissue paper. This communicates low level of self-respect.

6. In Conclusion

On the approach, I am committed in getting to know her, but there is NO WAY IN HELL I am gonna be sure that I want her. I may wanna bang her but that would be just for my personal pleasure and with absolute disregard for her. With a good vibe and focused commitment, I will stand out and gradually earn her INTEREST and she will commit to letting me know her better and letting herself know me better. She usually doesn’t wanna sleep with me yet but she definitely wants to find out what kinda person I am. As we find out about each other and find things that we appreciate about one another, we commit more and more interest in the other person to the point where we surrender our heart, mind and body to each other. So get out there and make a commitment towards getting to know that special woman!